Ugh! Dating. If you’ve ever been frustrated because dating is so confusing, you’re not alone. Sometimes it seems like you’re doing all the right things and you’re getting no where.
Before you get used to doing ALL the work in a relationship, here’s how to tell if your guy isn’t that into you. If you’re seeing many of these signs that he doesn’t want a relationship with you, move on sister. You have better things to do!
12 Signs He’s Not That Into You
If the guy you’re dating is showing any of these obvious signs, it’s pretty clear that he’s not looking for anything serious. It may be hard to accept such behavior, but it’s better to know the truth than to continue living in a fantasy and spend time.
If you’re looking for a serious exclusive relationship, it’s best to move on and find someone who wants the same thing. Again, don’t waste your precious time or your energy.
1. He Doesn’t Introduce You To His Family Or Friends
If the guy you’re seeing never introduces you to his family or friends, it’s a pretty clear sign that he’s not looking for anything serious. A man who is interested in a long-term relationship will want to introduce the woman he’s dating to the people who are important to him.
He’ll be proud to show you off and will want you to meet the people who matter most to him. If he’s keeping you separate from his inner circle, it’s a pretty good indication that he doesn’t see a future with you.
2. He Never Talks About The Future
When two people are in a relationship, they usually start making plans for the future together. Even if those plans are just small things like booking a vacation or talking about where they want to be in five years, it’s still a sign that the relationship is heading somewhere.
If the guy you’re seeing never talks about the future with you, it’s a pretty clear indication that he doesn’t see a future for the two of you together.
3. He’s Not Interested In Your Life
When someone is interested in being in a relationship with you, they’ll want to know all about your life. They’ll ask questions about your family, your friends, your job, and your hobbies.
They’ll want to know what makes you tick and will take an interest in the things that are important to you. If the guy you’re dating shows no interest in your life, it’s a pretty good sign that he’s not looking for anything serious.
If he’s not interested in your life, it’s a sign that he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
4. He Keeps His Distance Emotionally
When two people are in a close relationship, they usually share their thoughts and feelings with each other pretty freely. They’re not afraid to open up and be vulnerable with each other.
If the guy you’re seeing keeps his distance and is emotionally unavailable, it could be a sign that he’s not looking for anything serious. Or, he may not be a good communicator and he may be afraid of getting hurt or may simply not be ready to let anyone in. Either way, it’s not a good sign for the future of your actual relationship.
5. He’s Not Interested In Your Friends Or Family
A man who is looking for a serious relationship will want to get to know the people who are important to him. If the guy you’re dating doesn’t seem to care about your friends or family, it’s a red flag.
He’ll want to meet your friends and family and will make an effort to get to know them. If he cancels on outings that include your friends and family more than once, it’s probably a sign. If he’s not interested in the people who only a matter to you, it’s a sign that he doesn’t see a future with you.
6. He’s Not Ready For A Relationship
If he’s not interested in a relationship, it may be because he’s not ready for one. This includes things like being afraid of commitment, not being over his ex, and not being ready to settle down. If he’s not ready for a relationship, it’s a sign that he doesn’t want one with you.
There are some men who simply aren’t ready for a serious relationship, no matter how much they may want one. Even if you’re sure this guy meets the twin flame test, take a look with new eyes. If the guy you’re seeing is telling only you that he’s not ready for a relationship, it’s best to believe him. It may be hard to accept, but it’s better than getting your heart broken.
Listen to their words as well as their actions, if they’re telling you they’re only in it for fun, believe them.
7. He Avoids Physical Contact With You
One of the signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you is that he avoids physical contact with you. This includes things like not wanting to hold your hand, not wanting to cuddle, and not wanting to kiss you.
Does he ever try to hold your hand or put his arm around you? If he’s not interested in you, he’ll avoid any physical contact. This is a surefire sign that he doesn’t want anything more than friendship.
If he’s avoiding any kind of physical contact, it’s a sign that he’s not interested in a relationship. And if he’s avoiding any contact in public, that’s also a red flag.
8. He Never Asks You Out On Dates
Another sign that he doesn’t want a relationship with you is that he never asks you out on dates. If he’s interested in dating you, he’ll ask you out. But if he never asks you out, it’s a sign that he’s not interested in a relationship.
Just hanging out can be fun and we all like to just chill sometimes, but you shouldn’t be spending all of your time at home in front of the TV on the couch.
9. He Doesn’t Talk About His Feelings
If he’s not interested in a relationship, he won’t talk about his feelings. This includes things like not talking about his emotions, not talking about his past, and not talking about his hopes and dreams.
Sometimes, it’s hard for guys to open up, but if he’s completely closed off, see that as a red flag. If he’s not interested in sharing his feelings with you, it’s a sign that he doesn’t want a relationship.
10. He Never Makes Any Plans With You
If he always seems to be too busy to make any concrete plans with you, this is a definite sign he’s not that into you. Whenever you try to pin him down for a date, he’s always vague and says he’ll let you know. Especially if he has time to things with his other friends.
This is a huge sign that he’s not interested in taking things further with you. If he wanted to, he would make an effort to see you.
11. He Never Asks You Any Personal Questions
A guy who’s interested in you will want to get to know you better. He’ll ask you questions about your life, your job, your family, etc. If he never asks you anything personal, it’s because he doesn’t care about getting to know you better.
12. He’s Still Dating Other People
If a guy is truly interested in you, he’ll want to make things exclusive and stop seeing other women and people. If he’s still dating around, it’s a sign that he’s not ready to commit to anyone – including you.
The Takeaway: Look for the Signs if You Want to Know If He Wants a Relationship With You
There’s nothing wrong with a casual relationship. But if you are looking for the next level of commitment, make sure that your guy isn’t giving you these red flags and signs that he doesn’t want a relationship with you. Life is too short to waste your time on people who aren’t looking for the same things you are.