It can be difficult to navigate a relationship. Perhaps you aren’t certain if the person that you are dating is right for you, or you don’t know where to go with the person with whom you have been to dinner a few times.
No matter what your situation, there are ways to improve your romantic relationship.
Which type of love do you seek?
You may not be getting the love you deserve if you’re struggling with relationships.
Long Lasting Commitment
You might be looking for a long-lasting commitment? Perhaps you are in a casual relationship with someone who is only interested in a short-term relationship.
This could be because you feel confused in a relationship, or you might be in a different position than the people you are seeing.
You could be also rushing to enter relationships. You could be so focused on finding long-lasting love and commitment, that you try to force relationships. This could lead you to settle for the wrong partner or make you feel confused about your relationship.
You can’t force someone to make a commitment.
It is possible to feel conflicted and feel confused in relationships. However, this is part of exploring who you really are and what you want out of a partner.
It is important to decide if you are looking for friendships or love. You can experience platonic love with friends.
This type of love is for you if you want to share a significant amount of your time together, but not have any romantic or sexual interest in the person. Sometimes platonic love can be confused with romantic love. This can lead to mixed feelings.
Maybe you’re content with platonic love expressed in close friendships.
Is it love or confusion?
Even if you know exactly what kind of relationship you desire, there are times when you feel confused. Sometimes, it is hard to know if you’re experiencing love with a soul mate or the chaos of attraction.
These are the things you need to consider to decide if you are in love with someone or are just confused.
Are you close to this person?
Assess how close you are to the person you are experiencing mixed emotions with.
You should feel a deep sense of caring and connection to this person if you are developing a relationship with them.
Although you may experience some fluctuation in your emotions, the general rule is that if you are in loving your feelings of intimacy and connection will remain stable.
Are you able to identify with this person?
While friendships may allow us to admire the positive qualities of others, love is deeper and we find ourselves feeling positive about all their traits.
You may find yourself falling in love with your partner’s unique personality traits and quirks. This is likely to be love if you feel a lot in love with your partner.
On the other hand, if you feel no deep connection with your partner, this could be confusing.
Have you got things in common?
You might feel confused about your feelings for love. It is time to evaluate whether you have any commonalities with the person you are currently dating. While people who are in healthy relationships might have different interests, their values should be the same.
While there may be disagreements between you, it is possible to love even if your views are not the same. Similar goals should be set for your children and your marriage. It could be that you and your partner don’t have much in common.
5 signs that you are in a confusing relationship
You may not want a relationship that works, even if you are in love. These are five signs to look out for:
1. Over-analyzing takes up a lot of your time
You may feel confused about your partner’s feelings, which can lead to anxiety and cause you to question the relationship.
You might spend hours looking at your partner’s behavior and thoughts. You may also replay conversations over and over in your head to see if you are really interested in them.
2. You don’t feel like you can be yourself
This could be a sign that you are confused in your relationship. Fear of rejection by your partner can lead to you hiding certain aspects of yourself.
You should be able to let your guard down and allow your partner to express themselves freely.
3. You don’t enjoy spending time together
You may be having a difficult relationship if you are constantly dreading your partner’s company or if you feel like you don’t have much fun together. Spending time with someone you love should not be stressful.
If you aren’t enjoying time with your partner, this could be a sign that you aren’t compatible or you don’t share enough common interests. This is not a good sign for a relationship.
If you don’t enjoy spending time with your partner, you might feel that you are “faking” it. This is a sign that you are not satisfied with your relationship.
4. Drama is the center of your relationship
Sometimes, the attraction to a relationship is based solely on excitement. Drama can keep things exciting.
Perhaps your partner is having a difficult relationship with a former lover. In this case, you can be an advisor and support source. Perhaps you’re dealing with a very personal situation and your partner can be a support source.
If you find your relationship thrives off drama, it’s possible to be confused about your relationship. It isn’t about love, but the mutual connection that you have made through conflict.
To determine whether you are in a healthy relationship, you must search for obvious signs. Only after thorough analysis can you reach a valid conclusion.
5. You feel the need to fix your partner
If you feel like you have to rescue your partner or fix them, this is another sign that you may be confused about your love life. Maybe your partner is feeling depressed, or in a difficult personal situation.
Let’s say you decide to help your partner in this situation. You may be fulfilling a childhood need for protection and love instead of finding true love for your partner.
You may need to manage mixed emotions if your relationship revolves around your partner.
5 Things You Can Do If You Feel Confused in a Relationship
There are steps that you can take to fix the situation if you accept that you are in a relationship rut.
These five tips will help you deal with mixed emotions regarding your partner.
1. Give it time
It is said that “Time heals all injuries.” This may be true if you are new to a relationship or are experiencing mixed emotions.
You may need to spend more time getting to know your partner and deciding if there is a genuine connection. Give yourself a few months to get things settled if you are experiencing relationship confusion.
You may need to consider moving on if you find yourself unable to be yourself with your partner, or if you don’t share any common interests.
2. Talk to your partner
There is a possibility that your partner feels confused if you are feeling lost in a relationship. Talk to your partner. Communication can fix so many things.
You might have a simple miscommunication. Getting on the same page can help with mixed feelings.
Sometimes you can resolve your confusion by simply talking to each other and getting to know their thoughts, wants, and needs.
3. Keep your own interests and friendships alive
It could be that you are not sure if the person you are considering is compatible with your lifestyle, or shares your interests.
Be sure to make time for your friends and to pursue your interests, instead of solely focusing on your relationship. This will help you determine if you can still retain your identity in this relationship.
You may discover that you have more things in common with your partner if you invite them to join you in your activities.
However, if your partner isn’t supportive of your interests, it may not be the right relationship.
4. Assess if your relationship is healthy
Your confused emotions may be the result of an unhealthy relationship. Take a moment to assess if this is true.
A healthy relationship should allow you and your partner to communicate openly, and respect each other.
The relationship may not be healthy if you are afraid of sharing your feelings with your partner or if difficult conversations lead to degrading remarks and name-calling from your partner. This is a sign that it’s time to move on.
5. Accept that you may be feeling normal things
Love can be complicated. You can give yourself grace if you’re experiencing confusion in your relationship.
It is possible that you are experiencing normal emotions associated with romantic relationships.
You may want to relax and enjoy your relationship if you’ve completed the four previous steps.
Perhaps your confusion is just a result of thinking too much and making your mixed emotions seem bigger than they are. You can find love rewarding. Take some time to enjoy it without worrying.
The Takeaway: Do this if your confused about your relationship
It is normal to be confused about relationships. You might be looking for platonic love through close friendships but have been putting pressure on yourself to find romance.
You might be so obsessed with finding true love, that you rush into relationships and obsess over every detail. These scenarios can cause confusion in relationships. No matter what your situation, be kind to yourself.
Take a moment to reflect on the situation and take in the beauty of the moment.
If you are still having doubts about your relationship, have a talk with your partner and take the time to assess your situation.
Are you able to see yourself developing with this person? Are you able to share things? Are you looking forward to spending time together?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, it is possible that you are experiencing normal confusion in your relationship. Things will get better over time.
Even if you feel mixed emotions and decide that the relationship you are in is not right for you it doesn’t mean that you won’t find true love. You can find out what you like and dislike by exploring different relationships.
You can take your time and enjoy dating, without being pressured to find the right relationship.
Mixed feelings could be normal in a relationship, or they could be a sign that it is time for a change.
You don’t have to be perfect to be happy with anyone, but you shouldn’t put too much pressure on yourself. You can find the perfect type of romantic love for yourself if you aren’t trying to force it.